I have run into a problem. On another dating site I met a man and began IMing. We have talked a total of three times, online only. He sent an email to me today that basically said that we were meant to be married and he is in love with me. I swear I never said I loved him, or wanted him as a husband, but he has somehow come to this conclusion. How do I let him down easy? Some people have said I'm too nice and should just tell "psycho boy" to go away. Any suggestions to do this nicely?

Love and being together have different meanings to different people. Perhaps he is trying to compliment you...or he is unsure how to be single in today's world.

It could be many things...be honest and tell him you are not comfortable with his approach and online is fine...but love takes lots of time to build and even more face 2 face time for you.

Then run...lol

I know how hard it is to have to say something that is bound to hurt someone's feelings. He may be entirely sincere ... or he may be very manipulative, even if he is unaware of it or simply has his own needs in mind.

I've been where you are ... more than a couple times, in person and online. It has always led to more serious issues. Aimee is right about red flags.

My best advise is this ... do it in a way that leaves no room for negotiation, the sooner the better. If you've only chat  more...

I know how hard it is to have to say something that is bound to hurt someone's feelings. He may be entirely sincere ... or he may be very manipulative, even if he is unaware of it or simply has his own needs in mind.

I've been where you are ... more than a couple times, in person and online. It has always led to more serious issues. Aimee is right about red flags.

My best advise is this ... do it in a way that leaves no room for negotiation, the sooner the better. If you've only chatted then it can be a quick, polite, off-line note to say that you're not comfortable with the way things are going and you wish him the best of luck but won't be contacting him again. less...

On another note he could be a scammer trying to con you so be careful.
Good luck with sorting it out.

there are many needy people out there I suppose. I don't know if there would ever be a right way to fend off a person such as this though. good luck!!

I also agree with Wendy, just state the facts to him. Especially since you've not met face to face or have you?

I heard on the radio recently, that red flags should go up when someone moves much too fast and starts saying the "L" word and proposing in inappropriate ways. This sounds like this guy.

Wendy has given you sound advice, do it and let us know how it went for you.

After meeting one,myself and it's not going well on my side, I've told the guy that a beau from a  more...

I also agree with Wendy, just state the facts to him. Especially since you've not met face to face or have you?

I heard on the radio recently, that red flags should go up when someone moves much too fast and starts saying the "L" word and proposing in inappropriate ways. This sounds like this guy.

Wendy has given you sound advice, do it and let us know how it went for you.

After meeting one,myself and it's not going well on my side, I've told the guy that a beau from a past relationship has asked for a second chance and I've agreed. It lets them down without any feelings of "its you".

Good Luck. less...

yes be honest with him tell him that you,re feelings for him is just for a friend nothing else. that you r not rushing into anything with anybody it,s always best to play with a open deck feelings may get hurt but it,s better to have a short hurt then a long hurt.you will feel better and he will know where he stands with you .hope this helped you some out .... wendy :o)smile it will be fine

From my experience when someone online says they love you that quick they are usually an internet scammer looking to marry American woman.

I can't tell you the number of times that this has happened to me but it is alot.

Just tell him he is moving too fast for you. Especially if you haven't even talked on the phone or seem who he really is via webcam. Just my 2cents.

Kris